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The Giant Leap From Chaos to Balance

Building the Foundation

Are your daily responsibilities draining your energy or zipping you up? Do you have too many plans or too few? Do you have time to do most of the things you want to do, or do you need to make that giant leap toward taking control? Whether you’re a student, homemaker, job-seeker, or one of the many over-worked employed, the same question applies: How do we give and take in the spectrum of needs for family, rejuvenating friendships, intellectual and physical stimulation, career, personal development, adequate rest, time for ourselves, and lots of fun all at the same time?

The answer lies in balancing the various needs and responsibilities in your life according to your own personalized, prioritized plan. That means taking charge. By taking control you’ll meet your intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs on a day-to-day basis in a low-stress, healthy way.

Webster’s dictionary defines balance a little more literally. It is: “a state of equilibrium, and/or the process by which something is brought into or held in equilibrium.” Imagine an old-fashioned weigh scale for a moment; the scale itself representing the measuring medium, and the items you load on each side the various aspects of your life. Weigh down the one side with career; study, if you’re a student; time spent in job search if you’re making a leap from school to the work place, and so on. Weigh down the other side with all the other responsibilities and activities in your life. How can you balance career and personal life so that one not only complements, but actually releases tension in, and rejuvenates the other?

In order to achieve equilibrium in our lives two things are necessary:

First: Create a plan for your life that reflects your personal values and beliefs.

Take a good, hard look at your life. Does your daily lifestyle reflect your personal goals, values, and beliefs? If you were to write your own ticket to lasting happiness, what would you want most? A job? A more rewarding job? A contented family life? What do you want?

As you work your way through, set some one, five, and ten year goals for yourself. Address the people and activities you value most in your plan and be sure your goals inspire you! A personal plan defines your purpose and charts your direction into the future. Following its course will reward you with a sense of personal accomplishment, self-esteem, inner peace, lasting happiness, and, of course, continual stimulation.

Secondly: achieving balance requires that:

You make adequate time for each of the people and activities that are important to your well-being. Weighing down the scale with work to the exclusion of family, friends, hobbies, and exercise is poor boredom, or complete burn out. Ironically, devoting all your energy to one task can be just as chaotic as frantically trying to fit everything into your schedule without a plan. Making adequate time for the people and commitments that you value is an act of will; wishing you had the time isn’t going to get you there. It means planning with whom and on what you’ll be focusing your energy at any given time (a daily planner really helps), and then sticking to that.

About The Guru Coach


Betska K-Burr
Accredited Master Coach (IIC&M)
Co-President of Coaching and Leadership International Inc.


  • Accredited Master Coach (IIC&M). Over 5,500 Client coaching hours since 1995.
  • International Executive and Life Coach and confidante to individuals and groups in 20+ countries: CXO’s, Senior Government officials, Ambassadors, Royalty, TV Stars, TV News Anchors, Star Athletes …
  • Betska is Co-President at Coaching and Leadership International Inc. Having developed 80+ award-winning coaching methodologies which enrich a Leader’s competencies and bring peace into their life, she leads the Instructor Team at the CLI school where Leaders learn how to coach their employees.
  • Betska is an industry pioneer in Whole Brain Coaching methods which generate high level ROI.
  • Affectionately called The Guru Coach by her students and clients, Betska is a Canadian best-selling author of many books including Creating Champions, Flying by the Seat of Your … Plans, Build a Boooooooming Business and The “God” in Coaching – The Key to a Happy Life.
  • As former International Head of Accreditation for a global governing body in the coaching industry, Betska led the team who assessed Coaches around the world on their coaching skills.
  • Business awards include: 2003 and 2007 Awards for Innovation, 2009 Lifetime Achievement Award, 2010 a most prestigious award – The Pride of HR Profession Award (Mumbai India).
  • Vast business experience: Has held multiple positions including Senior Executive with International Companies such as Lanier and 3M and as a servant in the Canadian Foreign Service, holding three European posts.
  • In her spare time, Betska is a voracious reader, meditates for lengthy periods of time every day, loves to garden, takes pride in feeding her family healthy vegan food and enjoys hikes and yoga. Betska is a student and teacher of living true family values such as courage, devotion, faith, generosity and love.

“Betska is committed to take on whatever it is with us, around us, or between us that may be a barrier to nothing less than unmitigated, unimaginable success.”
~ Toby Schneider, Ex. Director, GOA Enterprise and Advanced Ed

The Paradox of Life: The more we want something, the less likely we are to get it.

Why does this happen? When we are attached to needing people, places or things we have fears that we might not receive what we want. This fear creates an energy block and stops whatever we wish from coming towards us. Therefore, it is best that we detach from needing anyone or needing anything. With zero energy blocking us from receiving, it is far more likely that we will receive what we had originally wanted.